Loneliness = Emptiness

One day, my mom was busy in gardeningat home and I was sitting nearby. Usually, she takes care of plants we have, by putting sufficient manure and water. But on that day, I noticed something unique. After providing water to plants, she was trying to drag the marigold flower pot towards the other flower pots, as it was left aside few days ago. I asked my mom, “why are putting this marigold flower pot with others?” as all the plants were already very near to each other. She replied, “The marigold flowers has become dull and fade.”  But I found it very weird and then I said, “If it became dull and fade so we should put extra manure and water in it, I don’t think that gathering them with each other will leave any effect on it” then she said, “it was alone in the corner since last two days. If I will put it with other plants, it will become fresh again among the company of all the plants”. And later I observed that she was correct.

I thought, this technique is definitely applicable on human beings too.

 

Don’t you think so?

As I say always, every day, we face so many challenges and every challenge brings a new lesson. Sometimes, a situation comes in which happenings leave an adverse effect on us and reason or happening could be anything like failures, misunderstandings, pain of losing someone special. After such incidents, most of the people want to be alone for some time or may be forever. Even we want everyone to stay away from them either they are close ones or not. In such situations, we get depressed and upset and refuse to take any suggestion or help from anybody. That is how; such loneliness becomes painful for us and our fellows as well.

So, does it mean that a person want to stay alone only in sorrows?

Most of you would definitely say yes. But I think there are some happy moments exist in which some of us want everyone to stay away from our happiness and even don’t want to share any celebration with anybody. Due to this, people around us, start avoiding our company and even they don’t care in our helplessness too.

And the third and the exceptional category, some of us are very much “stubborn” who always stay alone without any reason (neither happy nor sad).

In a straight forward manner such people are called “introverts”.

I don’t understand that by staying alone or proving yourself gives you what? Is it the only solution of your disappointment or are you just secure your happiness from others as if it’s a treasure?

Does it give you any comfort?

Yes, I agree with a fact that we need loneliness at some points of time to think or to decide something, but only when if our loneliness exist for “short term”. Because “long term or permanent loneliness” would never give you any worth or comfort but it could spoil the temperament of yourself and your relations with your fellows as well.

The same thing is applicable with others.

Most of the time, we just need to understand that there is someone who feel alone or having any problem and this understanding becomes “must” if the alone person is our close one. At least we help them to expose themselves from such ‘unwanted loneliness’. And obviously,

 

Who knows who would become a helping hand of whom!

 

So friends keep this fact in your mind that, being alone is not the “cherry on the cake” thing and get out from your loneliness and try to help others if any of them feel the same.

 

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